Attachment self-reflection
Ten questions about how you respond when the people close to you feel far away, drawn from themes in attachment research.
For reflection. Your answers stay in your browser. At the end you will see a short summary of the pattern your answers lean toward, written to be thought with, in the spirit of the research this site explains.
1. When someone you care about does not reply quickly, you typically...
2. When a partner or close friend seems distant, your first move is to...
3. Getting very close to people feels...
4. After an argument, you usually...
5. Asking for comfort when you are upset...
6. When someone relies on you heavily, you feel...
7. In a new relationship, you tend to...
8. If a friend cancels plans at the last minute, you usually think...
9. Sharing something vulnerable about yourself...
10. Overall, depending on other people feels...
Your pattern, as your answers describe it
Patterns like these are the subject of our explainer on how partners' replies ease attachment anxiety, and of the attachment topic as a whole.